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what did the vet do to my cat? he was NOT at death's door!

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I'm beyond heart-broken. it would maybe be a little less difficult to accept, if I knew what happened....

when I brought Valentine (male cat, 6 yrs. old) into the vet on Wednesday morning, he was NOT at death's door! he had been getting a little better after starting on prednisolone on Monday. he was scheduled to have an ultrasound, so that we would get the correct diagnosis, and then with treatment, he could be on his way to healing, whatever that meant. the vet didn't even get "around to him" until about 3 pm, that afternoon. I talked with vet right after, and he told me the results of the ultra-sound. yes, it looked like cancer, but with steroids, and proper care, he could live years. well, he died immediately after the shot! did they give him too much? did they give him too much anesthesia? did they give him the WRONG medicine? what in the world happened? I am distraught over this! the vet acted so nonchalant over this! this kitty was my best-friend in the world! I took him everywhere with me! I would have cut off my right arm to save his life! but, I can't help but think that somehow, the vet screwed up! has anyone ever had this experience? if so, please let me hear from you! thanks so much! summer

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Summer, what you're feeling right now is very normal. Valentine's death was very sudden and unexpected and you don't have a solid explanation for it.

I suggest that you schedule an appointment to sit down and talk to the vet - tell him that you need to understand what happened and why. The vet may or may not have answers for you, but at least he can tell you what he knows.

Sudden death in young cats - even healthy cats - happens more often than we realize. Check out this article -

http://www.petconnection.com/2010/10/18/cats-sudden-death-probably-heart-related/

The truth is that Valentine's sudden death may have had nothing to do with the cancer or the procedures. But you want answers and you deserve to get them (at least, whatever answers may be available). The vet's nonchalance may be something he's developed over the years to try to maintain his professional demeanor in difficult situations. Or, he just may not be great with his people skills. I think we've all run into at least one of those...

But take the time to talk to him. Over the phone or schedule an office appointment to do it if you have to.

And you know you'll always find support here.

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Summer, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear, sweet Valentine. I had been trying to think of the words to write ever since I read about Valentine...but mikken has said it so well for me in the above post.

There's so much that none of know about what happened to Valentine, so at least for me, it's difficult to know what to say right now other than I can feel your pain and heart break and am so sorry for it.

As mikken suggested, I wholeheartedly support the idea of talking to the vet to understand the diagnosis, prognosis, and what happened.

I would also suggest having another pair of ears with you when you talk with the vet. I've found it helpful for me to have someone else there with me at important appointments, whether human or animal, to also listen and ask questions.

Hugs to you.

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thank ya'll for taking the time to write. i have written a letter, but i do want to talk to thevet in person as well. and, yes, i will bring someone with me... my family has been using this vet ever since he opened his own practice. he knew i was having financial difficulties lately. when i brought valentine in on monday morning, i told him that i had just found out about imom, & he understood that things were "pending," & not completed yet. yet, when i brought val in on tues. morning, the girl at the front-desk would not let me leave him! she kept telling me how their policy was that i needed to pay UPFRONT! i kept telling her over and over that the doc knew that i was in the process of getting help from imom. shw WOULD NOT LISTEN, or get the vet to come out and ktalk to me. i had no choice but to leave, as the vet was in surgery. in the meantime, i was lucky enoug to get all paperwork completed. (thank yall SO MUCH!) so that was a whole day that was wasted. i returned the next day, wed., and thay didnt get around to him until late that afternoon, after i dropped him off at 7:3o , So, my poor baby boy just sat all alone in his crate, no water, food or meds, until the vet could get to him. after the ultrasound, he DIED! thats why it is so hard to accept! he was not about to die, i think they did something wrong that caused his death. i am just grieving so, so hard. this is unbearable. my heart is BROKEN! & his name was VALENTINE, & it is almost VALENTINES DAY?

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i know that nothing will bring him back. i have to accept it. but he was only 6, & he could have lived for years on prednisone. i never would have dropped him off, i would have kept him on the prednisone pills that he just started taking on monday. i just dont know what to do without my baby boy. he was everything to me. never have i had that kind of connection with an animal, and i have had lots of all kinds. i was raised on an Arabian horse farm. but this little guy (once 19 lbs!) was my hero. i WILL see him in heaven tho.

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I can only provide you with the experience I had when my Oswald got cancer. We were managing it at home and he seemed to be doing fine, the day he passed was just like any other day. I've looked back on that day many times over the years and I don't think there was any indication that when I woke up the next morning he would be gone.

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I only know that my cat Dylan had no symptoms other than that he seemed to have lost weight. He was at my vet of over 20 years, and the emergency vet, and seen by a vet specialist; given fluids, steroids, and blood transfusions, and there was no question of not being able to pay, and yet in 2 days, Dylan was so ill I had to have him put to sleep. He would not have lasted the day. Both my vet and I were shocked at how he had seemed ok except for the weight loss, and yet his labs were awful, and he surely had cancer of some kind.

Sometimes we can do everything and it is still not going to save them. Believe me, I felt guilty for not having noticed the weight loss sooner, but my vet does not think it would have made any difference to the outcome.

There is no guarantee even with prednisone. I belong to a pet cancer support group, and we have members who do chemo and those who don't do chemo; those who use prednisone and those who don't; those who feed home-cooked meals and those who don't. Every person's experience has been different as to how long their animals lived after diagnosis: some for years, but some only for days.

I do think you should try to speak to the vet, if just to alleviate some of the uncertainty about Valentine's death. I hope it would set your mind at ease that you had done everything you could to save him.

Take care of yourself.

Judy G.

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I know from experience, for those left behind after a sudden unexpected death, it is so much harder than when the death is prepared for. But for the one who has passed, isn't it better to feel relatively good up until the very last minute, rather than struggling through an illness?

We all look back, trying to find the signs we missed, feeling guilty. But perhaps whatever was wrong, really didn't make the pet (or person) feel bad, and then suddenly an event that causes death occurs. Maybe the heart, maybe an aneurysm, maybe a massive stroke, an embolism, so many many possibilities.

My cat needed to be euthanized in Jan 2006, after battling 2 cancers. When she took a turn for the worse, and was obviously in distress, we helped her pass to the bridge. In March, my parents died in an accident. The fact that it was sudden, and I felt I had no closure, made it so much harder than any other family I had lost. Many years later, I am able to look back, and see that TC let me know she needed to go to the rainbow bridge to be there to meet my parents, and my parents were having a wonderful time on vacation, so died happy.

I pray that in time, you will find some closure and peace. I hope your vet has the answers you are looking for, because it surely helps knowing the cause. Look for signs, your cat will visit. Look for rainbows, listen for footsteps, feel him sleeping beside you.

Take care,

Diana

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Did you ever find out what happened to Val after the ultrasound? They anesthatised him before the procedure? Did he pass away right after a shot of prednisone?Gheez, I would be soooo pissed at that vet, you have no idea. I understand now why you are so heartbroken. I noticed the link to a website that explains about cats dying suddenly, even when young. I don't trust vets at all. They ALL overcharge people, ALL of them. When my kitty Gunsmoke had Kidney failure, I had to give him every other day a shot of Lactaid Ringer Solution. The vet charged me $25 per bag (16 oz of special water, basically). I found on the internet that I could purchase a box of 24 bags for $50!!!! I was so pissed. I told them about it and they just said, "Well, we don't get the medication wholesale" which is another lie. If I found where to buy it ten times cheaper I'm SURE they did too. Another time, I had given one of my kitty Miss Peaches kitten's she had when we found her, before she was spayed, to a family who had never owned a kitten or a cat before. They took the kitten to a vet to have her spayed. (She was a very small cat, like her mom.) She did not make it through the spay! I don't know what vet they took her to, but I was really upset when I heard what had happened. I think vets screw up ALOT but will NEVER admit to it. I think they over-anesththatised her. I'm thinking maybe the same thing happened to your Valentine. I'm so sorry, Summer, I completely understand the pain you are in. Certain kitties touch our hearts more than others sometimes.....NEVER take another cat to that Vet!!!!! The vet I go to now I owe $600 to for Bentley's euth and prednisone, which he did not tolerate well. He salivated and was even worse when I gave it to him, so I stopped. Even the pain killer they gave me for him made him worse. Only YOU know your kitty. Vet's don't. I am so sorry Summer, know that we are all here for you. Valentine is not suffering anymore. They do stay with us...my Gunsmoke passed away in my arms at home... that was hard for me to watch. That's why it was much easier for me to know when Bentley's time had come. cats can be fine one day, and the next, awful. I will say prayers for you and Valentine, Summer. Take care and let me know what happened. ~Amy

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I too had this happen. My daughter had found a day old kitten wondering around by itself and of course.. I took on the mothering responsibility. I learned alot from "bubba". When he was about a year old he suddenly stop eating and just sat all day. The vet ran tests and said his kidneys were gone and we needed to do the humane thing of putting him to sleep. This cat was like my child and I just about thought my world had ended. I couldnt put him to sleep and decided that as long as he knew my face, I would do whatever I could to save him. I scanned the internet for remedies and came across some medicine that actually started to bring him back to his normal self. After about 6 months of this medicine, I was just very angry when I had thought about the vet and telling me to put him to sleep. I had cured him and thought what if I did put him to sleep that day...   Well...2 more months go by and one morning I found him in the middle of the street dead.  My world crashed and although its been 4 years now...I still cry over him. I hope he knows how much I loved him.

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